What Would You Tell Your Younger Self?

 

What Would You Tell Your Younger Self?

Quite the loaded question, wouldn't you say?  It's one of those 'deep thinker' type questions.

Time passes by so quickly.  It seems like just yesterday I was 12 about to turn 13 and become a full-fledged teenager!  How can I be 57 with 2 children and 6 grandchildren?  Doesn't quite seem possible. 

I've thought about this many different times.  Part of what makes me ponder on this question is thinking about my children, because I'd do it all again just to have my kids.  But if there was something I would tell my younger me, it would be to SLOW DOWN and set HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.  

When I was young, I could see all of my friends having significant others and it put the belief in my mind that the only way I could be worthy in this life would be to have a man and be married, because if I didn't have a man, I must not be worth much, not attractive enough.  How crazy is that?  The first man that would truly have me, I jumped on the bandwagon.  

I would tell myself, 'Are you sure this is who/what you want? Remember that you'll be tied to this person and once you bring kids into the world, you're tied forever through them.  Set aside the sex, how does he treat you?  Does he bring you true happiness, peace, comfort and joy to your life?  If he's not and causing problems before you even walk down the aisle, don't you think you really should STOP and think things through?'  

Chances are, I probably wouldn't have necessarily listened to myself because how many 23-year-olds listen, TRULY LISTEN, to their elders and take their advice?  Very few.  

Take some quiet time and really think about this question.  Your answers may surprise you. 

Blessed Be!!

Silence ...

 

First off, have you ever looked at a word so long you wonder if it's spelled correctly, where it even came from or maybe even forget what the heck it means?  LOL  

Just me?  Alrighty then... LOL

Silence is a word that can be used in different contexts depending on the situation.  The room can be filled with silence, or you could swear someone to silence, etc... .

Silence, for me, is something I need to learn to have more of in my life, as in, keeping my own mouth in silence from time to time.  

I feel as though I can share some things with certain people then realize, when the words are out, that it was a huge mistake.  Then I chastise myself for even opening my mouth.  

You'd think, as I get older, I'd know by now that certain people just don't need to know some things.  I'm a very trusting soul and that, many times, is my downfall.  I have the mentality that most other people think and feel the same way I do, which unfortunately is NOT the case.  

If I can give one small nugget of advice, keep many of your personal thoughts close to your heart, only speak what's absolutely necessary and keep your opinions out of the conversation.  Many times, those words just come back and bite you in the end.

Stay safe out there everyone!  Be ever aware of your surroundings and know this is a safe zone.

Blessed Be!!