Be Authentically You

                         Be Authentically You!!

It’s finally trying to sunshine today after a night of storms! ☀️ 

Here’s a question for you….

How have you been truly living your life?  Are you a people pleaser, doing whatever and saying whatever to keep those around you happy despite how the situation makes YOU feel?  

I’ve lived the majority of my life that way, doing and not doing things to keep the peace & living to everyone else’s ideals.  

I’ve always put my own feelings aside, taking on any hurt myself instead of subjecting the other person to it.  The end result was me living my life in silent misery.

As long as everyone around me was happy, then I could be happy… or so I’d convinced myself. 

I’m not truly sure where this way of thinking came from.  It could be because my father could be overbearing and I’d do what I had to in order to keep him happy…. It could be because my ex-husband was the same way 🤷🏻‍♀️.  Part of it could be because I’ve lived most of my life with imposter syndrome, never truly feeling like I fit in anywhere and always feeling judged, just wanting others to like me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

As a 55 (56 in October) year old woman who has been through ovarian cancer resulting in a complete hysterectomy & a later reoccurrence with surgery, thyroid cancer (2 different types) resulting in a thyroidectomy, a mucocel appendix resulting in an appendectomy, …. I’ve decided to do something for ME, even though I knew some family & friends wouldn’t approve.  I got my first tattoo & I love it!! 

I have to admit that it felt SO GOOD to truly do something for me & making myself happy! 😊 

Stop trying to keep others happy!  I’m not saying you should be a jerk.  But know that your happiness is worth so much more than you may be giving it credit for!!

Life is short!  Eat the cake, buy the crystal, get a tattoo! 

You deserve it!!

I pray that you’re healthy, happy & safe….

And I pray that you have PEACE in your life!

Be authentically YOU!!

Pia

PRESSURE ...........................

 PRESSURE

Hello if you find yourself here again!  I hope you're staying safe in today's wild tornado watch weather.  😉

pres·sure

/ˈpreSHər/

noun

1. 1.

   continuous physical force exerted on or against an object by something in contact with it.

   "the slight extra pressure he applied to her hand"
2. 2.

   the use of persuasion, influence, or intimidation to make someone do something.

   "the many pressures on girls to worry about their looks"

Above is the definition of 'Pressure'.  We all have pressure in our lives from time to time, don't we?  Whether it's physical pressure or stressful pressure, sooner or later, we all feel it.

How do YOU handle pressure..... that of the stressful kind?  Do you go for a walk, hit the gym, seek out professional therapy or talk to a friend?  Have there ever been times when you're just fed up with a situation, but unsure how to deal with it?

I find that sometimes we cause our own stressful pressure, while at other times, the stress is coming from an outside source other than ourselves.  Maybe it's someone at home or someone at work or someone in your group chats, etc... 

Have you ever tried to address it yet nothing changes?  To me, that's when the EXTRA STRESSFUL PRESSURE happens.  You can address the situation in hopes that things change, but when they don't, you get even more stressed because you're unsure of how to proceed.  

Sometimes, if at work, higher ups need to be brought in and that's when things get extremely uncomfortable.  It isn't because they'll intervene to help correct the situation, it's because of the fear of not knowing what the repercussions will be as a result.  Will you be retaliated on even though it doesn't directly concern you?  Will that person get their pink slip, that you never intended for them to get?

Part of what makes up the pressure is our own thoughts ..... the dreaded 'overthinking'.  We play out a multitude of scenarios in our minds of the potentials of what COULD happen.  I'm guilty of that 100%!

Sometimes I journal, although that can be dangerous should someone find those thoughts.  I sometimes talk things out in therapy, but now my therapist has retired.  I'm happy for her, but sad for me. LOL

I try to distract myself with other things (music, tv, podcasts) while I wait for the pressure to ease up.

I'd love to hear how you handle stressful pressure.  Any tips and tricks are appreciated!!

I pray that you are happy, healthy, safe and that you have

P.E.A.C.E. in your life!

Until we meet again my friends, do your best to work on being as pressure free as humanly possible. 

  

Don't Let Them Rent Space In Your Head...

 Don't Let Them Rent Space In Your Head...

Another week has passed and we're back to Monday once again.  If you live in a normal routine, it can feel like another episode of 'Groundhog Day' from 1993.  

I hope you all had a nice holiday weekend depending on if you celebrate Easter or Ostara.  For me, holidays can be a tense time...not due to my own family but from extended family members.  

While we shouldn't allow anyone to get under our skin, it sometimes happens.  It can affect us mentally, emotionally and sometimes even physically.

When someone seems to live in perpetual stubbornness, anger and martyrdom,  it can have an effect on you.  If you're an empath, like me, you REALLY pick up on the feelings of others including those negative feelings.  

While I try not to take them in on a personal level, it DOES happen on occasion and especially when there's negative talk about someone I love.  My defenses kick in, my back hair raises up like a momma bear, and my irritation level flairs extremely high.  If you want to talk about me, that's one thing, but leave everyone else alone.  

You know the old saying, 'Hurting people hurt people.'.  While that may be true, it doesn't mean those hurting people can't learn to change their ways in order to NOT hurt anyone else.  

If you happen to experience this type of situation, someone speaking ill of you or a loved one, please don't dwell on it.  They're trying to live rent free in your head.  Make sure you KICK THEM OUT!  No one deserves to ruin your happiness just because they themselves are miserable.  I often think it must be terrible to live such an angry life when life is so short.

PLEASE take care of yourselves.  Don't let anyone steal your joy!

I pray that you're happy, healthy, safe and I pray that you have PEACE in your life!

Catch you on the flip side!